How do we really achieve quieting the critical voice in our head?
We think that our mind helps us. Sure, our minds are helpful when we need to solve a problem or to get a task completed such as writing a blog post, however, it also keeps us in our comfort zone by being overly protective of us.
How often does that little voice in your head put you down, talk you out of something or keep you from playing bigger in your life? Your mind/ego does so to keep you from being hurt or disappointed.
Unfortunately, all the negative thoughts about ourselves and others creates not only negative energy that emanates from within us but also strengthens the neuropathways in our brains making whatever perceived threat out there seem more and more real. This results in a higher probability that the negative outcome will actually come to fruition.
By quieting the critical voice, oftentimes negative voice, and shifting your focus to something positive, we ask our brains and senses to gather evidence that supports our new positive focus.
One way to break the habit of allowing your mind to run off, filling you with negative thoughts is to ask:
Would I ever allow a friend to talk to me in the manner and tone that I am talking to myself? Does this voice really serve me and have my highest and best interests in mind?
If the answers are no, ask it to take a break, go sit in the corner and to be quiet.
Then shift your focus to something that makes you smile or put your hand on your heart and think of something you love about yourself and the gratitude you feel for being alive allowing the feelings of self-love to expand.